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What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex relates to anything done with the mouth from:

• deep kissing
• continuous kissing all over the body and the genitals
• fellatio
• cunnilingus

Oral sex should always be done with a great deal of:

• patience
• personal hygiene
• sensitivity
• tenderness

It can be difficult for some people to do if you do not enjoy giving oral sex and this can cause tenseness and upset with your partner.

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What is Cunnilingus and How is it Done?

Oral sex for women is called cunnilingus and most women find it very exciting. Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina with your mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience, practice and dedication.

A strong slippery tongue can be used with precision on the clitoris without danger of causing any pain, unlike a finger. Whenever you touch a woman's vagina make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her.

Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clitoris because it does not secrete any juices of its own and is extremely sensitive and it can hurt if the area is too dry.

Everyone must find how they like things done to them, and this is a very personal thing. You can start by:

Some women may like additional stimulation:

If your partner does not like her clitoris to be stimulated directly at first, go carefully until she is fully aroused and reaches orgasm.

When your partner has achieved orgasm:

Oral sex can be one of the most exciting sexual experiences you can have:

What About the Smell and Taste?

If the taste or smell bothers you ask her to wash first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good, but acquired, taste.

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What About Cunnilingus During Menstruation?

Cunnilingus during menstruation is definitely a personal issue. If it is a concern to you do not do it. A tampon or a diaphragm may hold the flow of blood back. There is no particular danger in menstrual blood if your partner has no infections or HIV/AIDS. Orgasms during menstruation can help alleviate period cramps.

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What is Analingus and how is it done?

Analingus is putting your tongue to your partner's anal opening. Absolute hygiene is required for this sexual practice. Make certain that your partner has just showered and is very clean. Place a piece of plastic wrap or a dam over the anus. At no time should your tongue come into contact with the anal surface itself.

Your partner should lie on his/her back with his/her legs in the air and his knees close to his/her shoulders as this spreads his/her buttocks apart, allowing you greater access to his anus. The nerve endings around the anus respond to licking around the area.

Analingus, combined with other activities such as vigorous penis stimulation with the hand is sometimes included in homosexual relationships.

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What is Fellatio and how is it done?

Oral sex for men is called fellatio. There are few tips to fellatio that can be given other than lots of practice and finding out what feels good to each other. The lips and the tongue are the major sources of stimulation and can be used in many ways to make your partner feel good.

Most men find having their penis sucked, licked and kissed intensely exciting. Specific skills, techniques, and positions are not as important as your frame of mind and harmony with yourself and your surroundings.

Occasionally men are worried they may be bitten. If the partner opens his/her mouth as wide as possible, closes his/her lips but not his/her teeth over the penis, there should be no problem with biting. Using all the muscles in the lips and tongue will mean that the teeth should not come into contact with the penis at all.

The best way is to become familiar with the activity in an easy, relaxed way and add on from there. Remember, the main thing is to have a good time.

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Can you Choke Doing Fellatio?

Some women find that they start to gag or choke during fellatio. Get in a position where you are more in control so this can be avoided.

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What are some Techniques?

The male genitals are highly sensitive to pain so be very gentle.

Explore from the:

You can provide the highest degree of sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs and approaching his penis from the bottom rather than from the side or the top.

One of the simplest and nicest actions is to move your mouth up and down on his penis. This is called sliding.

Another method is to:

Another method as you are giving fellatio is:

What does 'Deep Throating' Mean?

When the penis goes down past your gag reflex area it is called 'deep throating'. The best way to give fellatio is still with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without gagging. You can overcome the natural tendency of the body to gag when a foreign object, such as a penis, is inserted down your throat by completely relaxing your throat at the moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire 'deep throating'. Once again practice is needed to perfect this act.

The average length of your oral cavity is 3-31/2 inches while the average Caucasian penis length is 5-51/2 inches. The biggest obstacle to taking all of your partner's penis down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost 90 degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat.

You will need to get into a position so that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line.

Some affirmations may be needed to handle the act: 'I won't choke'; 'I can take it out at any time', etc. With practice you will be able to take his penis deeper into your throat for longer periods of time.

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What is the 69 position?

The '69' position is so called because the figures resemble a couple giving each other oral sex. This is an excellent way of arousing each other and some people feel that it is the best position in which to perform oral sex. Each partner lies with their head by each other's genitals (most penises curve upwards towards the head, and that curve matches the curve of the throat in the 69 position). Some find it difficult to both perform and appreciate oral sex at the same time, especially when they are just about to reach orgasm, because of the intense pleasure. If this happens it may be best to break off from pleasuring your partner while you have an orgasm to avoid involuntarily biting your partner.

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Can I Use My Hands?

Many men like as much stimulation as possible and like the feel of a wet mouth and hands on the penis. This can prove very exciting for them.

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What about the Smell or Taste?

Nicely ask him to go take a shower if the smell is unpleasant to you. Basic hygiene is essential in any sexual practice and necessary in this age of prevalent STDs. There is no problem if your partner is healthy with no infection, besides, the mouth does have millions more germs than a clean penis.

Many women enjoy having their partner ejaculate into their mouth, however, some women find the idea of swallowing semen repugnant. It is up to the individual how you handle this issue. Many men feel that by swallowing their semen, you accept a part of themselves into your body to totally complete your lovemaking but many people don't like the taste of semen. You have to work it out with each other.

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What Can I Do to make my Semen Taste Better?

What Does Semen Contain?

The caloric content of an average semen ejaculation is estimated to be approximately 15 calories. The average semen ejaculate contains:

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Are there any Special Sensitive Spots or Marks on the Penis?

Like everything every penis is unique and different with individually preferred sensitive areas. People like to be touched and fondled in different ways. Ask your partner how they would like you to touch them. Go by your partner's reactions, sounds etc. and you will know if it is going okay.

You have to really put great enthusiasm into oral sex. Experiment with what each other enjoy most.

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How do you Perform Safer Oral Sex?

There is the risk of being infected with HIV in having unprotected oral sex with a man or a woman, however, it is not as risky as unprotected anal or vaginal sex. HIV is found in:

The virus can transmitted through:

on your body.

During oral sex, to avoid risk of HIV infection, it is important to:

To keep vaginal fluids out of your mouth when having oral sex with a woman, use:

To keep semen out of your mouth when having oral sex with a man, use:

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